Marriage
My notes on a preaching about Marriage.
We want marriage because of many things: Fellowship. Companionship. Intimacy.
Pleasure ≠ Pressure
Some want marriage because of pressure. Their friends are married, parents want grandkids, some because of legitimate sex - because they are burning with lust. Marriage is more than that.
There is purpose!
Mark 10:1-9
Jesus then left that place and went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them.
2 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, ‘Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?’
3 ‘What did Moses command you?’ he replied.
4 They said, ‘Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.’
5 ‘It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,’ Jesus replied. 6 ‘But at the beginning of creation God “made them male and female”. 7 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.” So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.’
It is a permanent union.
Be ready to face the challenge of CHANGE when you marry. Change is constant.
You are no longer doing anything for JUST yourself, consider your spouse in everything.
When you have a child involved, things will change, your attention has to be for your child.
In sickness, in health.
Be ready to accept there are some things you CANNOT change. If you understand one another you can survive any change.
A lot of the time people have a version of their partner they want in their head, and want to change them to fit the idea. Accept them.
Cooking? It can be solved. Let your Mother and Wife be best friends.
Believe God to do a work in yourself to compromise with your partner, in love and not by force.
Love is MORE give than it is to take.
John 3:16
‘For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.’
Learn how to say thank you.
Be commited to a LASTING marriage. No prenup.
For better, for worse.
Learn to be a model (an example) for your children.
Commit every relationship to God and depend on Him. DEPEND on Him.
How do you identify she is a Wife?
Look for what you can appreciate AND build on.
Let beauty not be a factor.
In marriage it is like a bag where there are 2 rough stones and they rub against each other. They slam against each other but with time also make each other smooth.
How can someone discern whether a relationship is led by God’s will or personal will?
There must be a witness in you. Unless you are so blind that you are after a materialistic thing or beauty.
Can she help to make my life better?
Can I make her life better?
If your Mother has a suspicion, listen to her.
Pray about it.
If you rush into marriage, you will rush out of marriage.
A word by Bishop Patrick Josiah
